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How To Think Fast and Talk Smart

We only become effective communicators by actually talking.

Spontaneous speaking is more common than planned speaking.

Examples like you getting introduced to someone suddenly or you asking for feedback or someone asking to give you a toast etc.

In order to be an effective communicator regardless of if it’s planned or spontaneous, you need to have your anxiety under control.

Let’s Start With Anxiety Management

85% of people say that they struggle with speaking in public and I think the other 15% are lying.

Chapman university asked people what do they fear most. Public speaking was in the Top 5 people’s most feared list.

But we can learn to manage it.

As a speaker, your goal is to make your audience comfortable and we do that by managing our anxiety.

These are some techniques you can use to manage your anxiety.

When you feel anxious, greet your anxiety. Say I am feeling anxious.

The research on mindful attention tells us, Simply by greeting our anxiety and acknowledging it by saying it is normal and natural you can actually stem the tide of anxiety from going out of control.

It will not stop the anxiety but it will stop from spiraling up.

The second technique is to reframe how you see the situation

When we are up presenting, we feel that we have to do it right. That is why we feel anxious.

But we have to see the situation as a conversation, not as a performance.

Start the presentation with questions because by nature they start the conversation and get your audience involved.

Another way to start the conversation is by using conversational language.

Instead of saying we will cover steps 1,2,3, say first we need to cover this and you need to consider this here or you have a responsibility towards this.

The third technique is to be present-oriented.

Most of us when presenting worried about the future consequences but if we can bring ourselves into the present moment we are going to be concerned about consequences so we will be less nervous.

Before the presentation, take a walk, say a tongue twister, listen to music, count number by back.

These are 3 of many tools to manage your anxiety before public speaking.

Rules To Speak In Spontanues Situations

There are 4 steps to do this

The first thing that gets in the way of Spontanues speaking is themselves. We get in our own way.

We want to be perfect and we want to give the perfect answer.

You can play a small game to make your brain get out of your way. The game is to point at random things and call them with a wrong name.

Example: Point at a chair and call it water or point at your wife and call her chair or call your mobile as bathroom etc

by doing this you are working against the muscle memory that you developed over the course of your lives with a brain that acts very fast and helps you solve problems.

A game like this teaches us to get out of our own way.

The second step is that we need to see the presentation as an opportunity rather than a challenge or threat.

Most executives see the presentations or public meets or Q&A sessions as a challenge.

But you need to see it as an opportunity to clarify or an opportunity to know what people are thinking.

If we look at it as an opportunity, it feels different. We feel more freedom to respond.

The next phase is to slow down and listen. You need to understand the demands of the requirements you find yourself in order to respond.

Often we respond, we listen just enough to think and respond but we really need to listen.

Fundamentally as a communicator, your job is to be in service to your audience. If you do not understand what they are asking or need, you can not fulfill their needs.

So we start by getting out of our own way, we then reframe the situation as an opportunity and be present and listen to your audience’s needs carefully.

Then you respond by telling a story. We have to respond in a structured way.

The key to spontaneous or planned speaking is to have structure.

The structure increases the processing fluency of information. We process structured information 40% more efficiently than the information that is not structured.

This means people retain information 40% more reliably and accurately.

One of the structures to use is – Problem → Solution → Benefits

The most important thing when speaking is to never lose your audience’s attention. You can do this by providing structure when you speak.

Problem – Solution – Benefit is a wonderful structure to have in your back pocket.

Another structure that works equally well. What → So what? (Why) → Now what

If you know these structures, you can be comfortable in any situation to respond spontaneously.

So the very first thing is to manage your anxiety, you can not be an effective speaker if you do not have your anxiety under control. We can do it by greeting your anxiety and reframing the conversation and being in the present moment.

Once you do that you need to practice the series of 4 steps to help you speak spontaneously. First, you get out of your own way, see interactions as opportunities rather than challenges, then take the time to listen, and then finally use structures.

You have to practice these. The more you practice the more comfortable you become.

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